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Guest Blog - Fore!

Posted By Anne Rudolph, Tuesday, May 1, 2018
Fore!

 

I suspect that many of you have been told that golf is a great way to network, and it definitely is. An average game is about four hours, in which you will have a lot of face time with your fellow players and opportunity to get to know people. In addition, it’s a great way to enjoy some fresh air and time out of the office. 

 

I know that many women who have never golfed before are intimidated by the game. Don’t be! All it takes is a bit of knowledge about the basics and some practice. In my experience, even new golfers are welcomed on the course and other players go out of their way to be courteous.      

 

Though we are an organization primarily made up of women, the vast majority of players in the annual Lawyers Club Golf Tournament have been men. In 2013, in an effort to encourage more women to play, the golf tournament committee came up with the great idea to schedule golf lessons for Lawyers Club members. The lessons were at Riverwalk Golf Club, and there were weekly group lessons during the four weeks leading up to the tournament. The lessons were a big hit, and many of the participants ended up playing in that year’s tournament. For some, it was the start of their path toward being regular golfers. 

 

I was part of the first group that participated in the lessons in 2013 and I had a great time and connected with so many people. The lessons were geared for beginners. The first lesson actually began with how to hold a golf club; it was that basic. The instructors really strived to make us feel comfortable.    

 

Each lesson was the same format: after giving a brief lesson about some golf fundamentals, the instructors would demonstrate the techniques and then put us into groups of three or four. We took turns hitting the balls with the instructors circulating around giving pointers. There was a lot of opportunity to hit balls and get helpful hints from the instructors. When it wasn’t your turn at the mat, there was time to visit and get to know the other participants. After each lesson, there was a fun happy hour hosted by one of our sponsors.

 

Though I signed up for the lessons with two other women from my own firm, we met so many new people. We hooked up with one woman who was new to town and the four of us ended up playing in the tournament together that year. We had a blast! The connections I made with some of the people at those lessons in 2013 have continued to this day.    

 

If you have been wanting to learn more about the great game of golf and to give it a try, I strongly encourage you to sign up for the group golf lessons that will begin on May 23rd at Riverwalk Golf Club. And, if you find you like it, sign up for the 26th annual Lawyers Club Golf Tournament, to be held on June 29th at Riverwalk.   

 

Anne Rudolph is a shareholder at Hughes and Pizzuto, specializing in trust and probate administration and related litigation.

Tags:  golf  golf lessons  golf tournament  networking 

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Chasing the Last Wave: Trashing the Guilt ​

Posted By Molly T. Tami, Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Trashing the Guilt

 

Many women lawyers suffer from guilt over working too much (or not enough), shortchanging their kids and families on quality (and quantity) time, and in general, failing to be the perfect partner, mother, daughter, friend, worker, etc. Most of us have been there at one point in our lives. As we chase the last wave of feminism, isn’t it time we trashed the guilt and lived our lives on our own terms?

 

To further explore this, let’s revisit the topic of networking. In my last blog post, I urged lawyers to pursue yoga (as opposed to golf) for networking and making meaningful connections. How about we embrace other traditional women’s activities as great opportunities for networking, while trashing the guilt we’ve been conditioned to feel over taking time from the workday to enjoy such things? 

 

For example, would you feel justified attending a non-work related “hat luncheon” to support a philanthropic cause?  New York City women lawyers and business executives did just that at the annual Central Park Women’s Committee luncheon. And in doing so, they embraced the idea that “We’re Ladies, We Lunch and We Like It.” As one female lawyer attendee noted, "Men have their golf outings, we have this.” Another attendee noted that men would never apologize about leaving the office to go play golf and they don’t feel uncomfortable blurring lines between pleasure and business. So why should women?  (Be sure to click on the link and read the article to see the fabulous hats worn at the luncheon!)

 

I recently discovered that I too am a lady, who lunches, and likes it! I became a new member of ZLAC Rowing Club here in San Diego, (the oldest women’s rowing club in the country), and I attended the club’s annual Terrace Luncheon. (Disclaimer: the luncheon occurred on a Saturday so I did not have to miss work to attend.) I’m not much of a hat person, but in keeping with the club’s traditions and inspired by the ladies of NYC who attended the Central Park Women’s Committee luncheon, I donned a (borrowed) hat, put on a summery dress and enjoyed a spectacular Saturday afternoon luncheon on the club’s lovely terrace in Pacific Beach.

 

So ladies, let’s continue to chase the last wave and like the women at the NYC luncheon, feel no more guilt for guilty pleasures!

 

Molly Tami, who serves as the Assistant Dean for Career & Professional Development at USD School of Law, is passionate about advancing women in the legal profession.      

Tags:  Chasing the Last Wave  connections  equality  feminism  feminist  gender  golf  hat luncheon  legal profession  networking  women  yoga  ZLAC 

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Chasing the Last Wave: "Taking Networking to the Mat!"

Posted By Molly T. Tami , Tuesday, February 28, 2017

Taking Networking to the Mat!  

 

Do you play golf? Personally, I am not a fan of the sport for several reasons that I will address below. I recognize, however, that many people enjoy golf, and some find themselves obsessed with it. Most of those people are unquestionably men. Should more women be encouraged to “hit the links?”

 

Lawyers and other professionals often cite golf as the best networking opportunity out there. For that reason, women lawyers are urged to take up the game. In a commentary on why more women should play golf, the CEO of the Executive Women’s Golf Association states: “Golf has been deemed the sport of business. Few, if any, activities can duplicate the power of golf to boost one’s career regardless of gender. The game provides unmatchable networking time with clients, prospects and colleagues, including coveted access to senior management.” Recognizing this, the Lawyers Club and other professional women’s organizations have facilitated golf lessons for their members.

 

Perhaps golf is great for business, but there are good reasons why women don’t play this male dominated sport and frankly, don’t want to. Firstly, many women never had the opportunity to learn to play the sport while growing up, and thus, never developed the skills or the interest. Moreover, most women who have children or other family commitments do not have the time or inclination to spend hours on the golf course on weekends or evenings. I have witnessed many marriages severely strained by the husband’s obsession with his weekend golf game while his wife stayed home to take care of the children and oversee the family’s weekend activities. (I hope this phenomenon was more prevalent with my age group of the baby boomers, than it is with younger couples.)  Finally, I know many women who would rather be pursuing other activities for exercise, enjoyment, networking, and connecting in a meaningful way with other people.

 

For example, let’s consider yoga. It’s hugely popular these days given its many health benefits and accessibility.Yoga for Everyone, a recent New York Times piece, extolls the virtues of a yoga practice. Yoga really is for everyone, and both men and women can practice together in a variety of settings. And in my experience, great connections can be forged before, during and after a yoga class!  

 

So here’s my idea. As we chase the last wave of feminism and work to advance women in the legal profession, I propose that we strive to make yoga the sport of business and networking. I would argue that the non-judgmental and reflective nature of yoga aligns well with the goals of making meaning connections and reaching agreement with others. If others came to recognize this, then perhaps we would see great interest in participating in yoga retreats, not just in golf outings.

 

Networking and making connections is an important part of my job, but don’t look for me on the golf course. Instead, you will find me sitting on my yoga mat breathing, stretching and connecting with my fellow yogis. Why not join us and help make it a movement!   

 

Molly Tami, who serves as the Assistant Dean for Career & Professional Development at USD School of Law, is passionate about advancing women in the legal profession.              

Tags:  business  Chasing the Last Wave  connections  equality  feminism  feminist  gender  golf  LCB  legal profession  networking  women  yoga 

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Student's Corner: "Networking 101: Teamwork"

Posted By Courtney Strange, Monday, July 11, 2016
Updated: Monday, July 11, 2016

Networking 101: Teamwork

Unfamiliar. Uncomfortable. Unnerving. Three words law students often use to describe “networking.” Overcoming those hurdles requires time, a rather limited resource. Luckily, Lawyers Club is intentionally structured to guide attorneys and law students over and around hurdles such as these, that inhibit the advancement of women in law and society. Personally, I have learned that taking full advantage of being a Lawyers Club member requires teamwork. In fact, it has been clear to me from day one that each attorney or judge I interact with remembers being in my shoes. That familiarity seems to lead Lawyers Club members to do what they can to help students like me achieve my individual goals.

 

I wasn’t even a law student when I found myself standing alone in the corner of the lobby outside the ballroom at the U.S. Grant, awaiting the start of the Equal Pay Day luncheon. There, I met a recent law grad holding her brand new baby girl. We bonded over our mutual awkward feelings—I wasn’t even completely sure I was allowed to be at this event. But, we both had enough courage to show up, Lawyers Club welcomed us with open arms, and we fell right into place at our respective stages in the journey to becoming the lawyer we each want to be.

 

This woman, (and each woman and man I met in this organization since that first luncheon), has become part of my “team,” whether they realize it or not. I am constantly blown away with the amazing opportunities I have been offered, and how close I am to realizing a decade-long dream. I look forward to the day when I can celebrate with my “team” and share stories about how each individual played a key role in my success. I also very much enjoy sharing my experience with my fellow classmates. For example, I recently introduced a new friend and classmate to “members of my team” at the Red, White, and Brew. He is a charming individual who came up to me before class and said, “I need to network. I hear you’re the person to talk to.” He mingled with attendees as easily as I knew he would, but being at his first networking event, he was incredibly grateful to have me and another friend as a networking team as we moved about the room. Hurdles leaped, together.

 

So, thanks, team! Law students: Go find your “team.” All: Got a story about your “team?”


This blog post was authored by Courtney Strange


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